Acts
16:31 (NIV)
The reason why this particular scripture is so crucial for me is because my marriage (my household) cracked in half because one decided to be saved and another one decided to live for desires of its flesh. If every married couple memorized this scripture and stood on this promise, than God would have been faithful to complete what He started. It is much easier to find justifications as to why divorce is appropriate and why relationships didn`t work, rather than trust the Lord to be faithful to fulfill this scripture. This particular excuse for being unsaved could not be used in marriage when looking into the issue of marrying an unbeliever or getting saved after being married because it`s clear that God has promised to save entire household.
If you have trials and you feel hopeless, it`s up to you as to how much longer you would resist God`s hand. Surrender it all- meaning you die to yourself (the lust of the flesh, the pride, the selfishness; they have to go), and as soon that happens, God would be more than willing to take you by the hand and bless you.
19I remember my
affliction and my wandering,
the bitterness and the gall. 20I
well remember them,
and my soul is downcast within me. 21Yet
this I call to mind and therefore I have hope:22 Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. 23They
are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness. 24I
say to myself, “The Lord is my portion; therefore
I will wait for him.” 25 The Lordis
good to those whose hope is in him,
to the one who seeks him; 26it
is good to wait quietly for
the salvation of the Lord.27It
is good for a man to bear the yoke
while he is young. 28 Let him sit alone in silence, for the Lordhas laid it
on him. 29 Let him bury his face in the dust — there may yet be hope. 30Let
him offer his cheek to one who would strike him, and let him be filled with
disgrace. 31For
no one is cast off by the Lord forever. 32Though
he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. 33For
he does not willingly bring affliction or grief to anyone. (Lamentations
3:19-33 NIV)
31
They
replied, “Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved —you and your
household.”
God is our Potter and we area
clay in His hands. All the promises He lists in the Bible is to show an example
of a potential Masterpiece for His glory. In this scripture, God promised us
one of the most powerful assurances that if someone in the household gets
saved, the entire household would get saved, and I think as believers, we don`t
always remember this promise and use it in our lives. This promise alone
produces masterpieces of changed lives for God`s glory. The reason why this particular scripture is so crucial for me is because my marriage (my household) cracked in half because one decided to be saved and another one decided to live for desires of its flesh. If every married couple memorized this scripture and stood on this promise, than God would have been faithful to complete what He started. It is much easier to find justifications as to why divorce is appropriate and why relationships didn`t work, rather than trust the Lord to be faithful to fulfill this scripture. This particular excuse for being unsaved could not be used in marriage when looking into the issue of marrying an unbeliever or getting saved after being married because it`s clear that God has promised to save entire household.
One of the pastors and some of
my friends told me I was completely justified to get a divorce because my
husband left me, and because he acts like an unbeliever (although claiming to
be saved), according to 1 Corinthians
7:10-11, I could keep up with my life if only stayed unmarried. Year
ago this lie would have been very appealing to me, but today I choose to
believe that God is faithful to finish what he started; and according to His
word, He promised that if one person gets saved, the entire household would get
saved. Being saved means a complete change of behavior because salvation
produces fruit of repentance just like walking in Spirit produces fruits of the
Holy Spirit that are mentioned in Galatians 5.
I could use excuses for my
husband being unfaithful, and doing plenty of other things to ruin my life, but
I choose to look at my circumstances through a different lenses. I choose to
look at my afflictions and trials as a way for God to raise my faith to the next
level in order to use me in His ministry that I`ve been praying for so many
years. We tend to rush into concluding
that all the problems and sufferings that we get are from Satan, and some of
them do come in as an attempt to destroy us as 1 Peter 5:8 says that Satan seeks whom to devour as he roams
around like a lion. However, in majority of the other circumstances, it is God
who puts us through the refining furnace of afflictions to save us, to build us
up, and to purify our faith.
One
of the scriptures through the sermon that I listened to last week just brought
me even lower to my knees. The scripture was from Lamentations 3 where Jeremiah laments about what happened to
him and what became of him.
1[a]I am the man who has seen
affliction by the rod of the Lord’s
wrath. 2He has driven me away and made me walk
in darkness rather than light; 3 indeed, he has turned his hand
against me again and again, all day long. 4 He has made my skin and
my flesh grow old and has broken my bones. 5He has besieged me and
surrounded me with bitterness and hardship.6He has made me dwell in
darkness like those long dead. 7He has walled me in so I cannot
escape; he has weighed me down with chains. 8Even when I call out or
cry for help, he shuts out my prayer. 9He has barred my way with
blocks of stone; he has made my paths crooked. 10Like a bear lying
in wait,like
a lion in hiding, 11he dragged me from the path and mangled me
and left me without help.
12 He drew his bow and made me the target for his arrows. 13He
pierced my heart with arrows from his quiver. 14I became the
laughingstock of all my people; they mock me in song all day long. 15 He
has filled me with bitter herbs and given me gall to drink. 16He has
broken my teeth with gravel; he has trampled me in the dust. 17I
have been deprived of peace; I have forgotten what prosperity is. 18 So
I say, “My splendor is gone and all that I had hoped from the Lord.” (Lamentations 3:1-18 NIV)
How
powerful is this scripture from Jeremiah as he was sitting in the darkness
during one of his imprisonments and praying all those things. He realized that
it was God who applied the rod of His wrath in order to refine his character
and to get Jeremiah to the place of complete surrender. At some point when
reading the book of Jeremiah in the Bible we see that he refused to speak up
God`s word and His prophecies to the people because they kept sending him to prison,
and they weren`t listening to repent (Jeremiah
20:9). As a result, God had to
apply His “rod of wrath” in order to get Jeremiah back to speaking up the
prophecies.
For some of us it does require to have God “break
our bones”, or to “dwell in darkness” (have silence from God and not have any
guidance from Him what to do), or to have “Him drive you away into the darkness
rather than light”, or to have His hand “turn against” you again and again, or
to have “bitterness and hardships”, or to be “walled in”, so there is no
escape.
Look at all these things that
Jeremiah names for what God did to him in order to gain his full attention. It wasn`t
Satan who burdened Jeremiah with all those afflictions, it was God Himself who
did that. I was blown away when I re-read that whole third chapter because it
answered to one of my main questions as to when would my trials stop? It would
not stop until I completely surrender to God and scrub all my pride out because
God would not be able to use me in my current capacity. My faith although
gotten stronger, but I am not at the place of complete surrender yet, and now I
know it because time to time I test it through different scriptures or sermons.
I complain and complain, and complain, instead of laying all my burdens down at
the cross. God is a Potter, and He will not give up on any of His masterpieces
until each of His art projects is finished.
To me it was a revelation to
hear that the reason why it took 25 years for Abraham to have Isaac, since the
day God promised him a son, was because it took 25 years for God to make
Abraham into Abraham (Father of faith) instead of him staying as Abram (Genesis 17:1-5). God wasn`t
interested in just producing an offspring by using Abraham`s lineage, He was
interested in producing a Father of Faith who could be used as an example for
the next thousands of generations.
It takes time to get me to the
place of complete surrender, but it`s really up to me as to how long it would
take. As soon as I`m ready to do what it takes, God would move the mountains if
necessary to accomplish His promise to save my household and to bring my
marriage back together. It`s up to me how much I would prolong my afflictions
to get to the place of surrender. If you have trials and you feel hopeless, it`s up to you as to how much longer you would resist God`s hand. Surrender it all- meaning you die to yourself (the lust of the flesh, the pride, the selfishness; they have to go), and as soon that happens, God would be more than willing to take you by the hand and bless you.
This was a great revelation to
me to be reminded that not only did God promised to save my whole family, but
He also promised to bless me in plenty of other ways: to deliver me, to save
me, to love me, to guard me, to protect me, to provide for me, and the list
goes on and on. I don`t want to spend 25 years like Abraham did to allow God to
accomplish what He started only because I chose to live with pride, or not to
look foolish in the eyes of the world, or to look too meek and lowly. This is
exactly what Jesus was: lowly, meek, and humble, and He urged us to learn of
Him to become the same way (Matthew
11:29)
Year ago, I was thinking about
all the justified things I could name in order to divorce my husband, but year
later, I`m naming all the promises of God that I have in order to save my
family. It takes all this time for God to mold me to become His masterpiece
because there are some areas in my life that I still hold on to and refuse to
let go. God is faithful to finish what He started, but it`s really up to us as
how long it would take to allow God to finish each one of His art projects. Jeremiah
had his teeth broken with gravel, and he went through endless amount of
imprisonments in order to say later on:
“It is good for a man to bear
yoke”, and so many months later, I can testify to that and agree with Jeremiah.
Through my hardships and agonies I learn to trust the Lord completely. Only on
Saturday I was choking by all the impossibilities of my circumstances and helplessness,
but I bring them to the Lord now, so many months later, and I say that “Lord Is
my portion”, and I will wait for Him. God is faithful and just although He had
to hide from me again and again at some point in order to crack me and to
refine me; I am grateful to Him so many months later that He continues to guide
me and to sustain me.
What`s amazing in this whole
situation is that God does provide me with the special anointing to make it through
these valleys of death just like He promised in Psalm 84:6-8 (NIV):
5Blessed are those whose strength is in You, whose hearts are set on pilgrimage. 6As
they pass through the Valley of Baka,they make it a place of springs; the
autumn rains also cover it with pools.[d] 7 They go from strength to strength, till
each appears before God in Zion.
In my Bible it literally means
as I walk through the Valley of Weeping, I open up the springs. God brings me
from strength to strength and showers me with these “springs” of His
revelations. I read His word and I find endless amount of promises and discover
His word under new lenses that I`ve never noticed before. How else could I ever
get to this place if I wasn`t going through this valley of weeping.
I have learnt a very valuable
lesson that God is faithful to fulfill His promises, but He doesn`t bend His
conditions. There are conditions apply to His promise every single time. He
will spend as much time as needed to refine me in order to bring me to the same
place as Jeremiah got to say that God is the One who brings over all these
afflictions for my own benefit. It is because He made me with purpose to serve
Him, and until He refines me into the person that He could use, He is not going
to stop “breaking my teeth” or putting me through the “darkness” when I can`t
hear His voice. God is a Sovereign God and because He doesn`t compromise His
standards, He takes all the necessary time show us how His promises work; how
His conditions apply in each promise.
If you are in a similar
situation, I encourage you to look at your circumstances from the different
angle and seek the Lord to show you the purpose of them. He will guide you if
only you would seek Him. He doesn`t want any life to be wasted, and chances
are, if you do go through some horrible afflictions like I am, it is because
it`s either you with whom He is doing some major “Art Project” or with the
opposing party who needs time in order to surrender to God. Remember, that it
wasn`t only Joseph who needed 13 years in jail, but it was also his brothers
who needed certain amount of time to realize what they did to Joseph was
unacceptable and barbarian in order to repent. There are always two sides to
the medal.
Remember, also that if you face
family issues, don`t through the flag down and give up, but trust the Lord is
capable to do the major “Art Project” to mold you into the one whom He plans
you to be. More than ones God likens us to the clay in His hands, and Him being
a Potter (Romans 9:20-21); He
can produce some major art masterpiece with your life if you would allow Him to
use your life as a vessel for His glory.
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